“Since when was school more about protecting every aspect of a child’s life, than about nourishing and giving the child the knowledge and tools they will need in life?”
American social trends tend to follow that of our distant European neighbors. This one unusual trend in particular, has begun to spread to the US.
Royal families usually don’t receive a lot of “no’s” or being told they can’t do something. So when Prince George (4 yrs old) attended school for the first year – he was surprised by this mandate that even HE had to follow. The school: Thomas’s Battersea, bans kids from having best friends. The school focuses on forcing kids to have friends with everyone in the school instead of a select few, in order to not hurt other children’s feelings.
American schools would never do that!… or would they?
This trend doesn’t sound like anything that could happen here in American right!? That would never happen here! Well, I must unfortunately inform you that – it already is. While the practice is still more prevalent the UK and Europe, the movement is spreading and has already begun to appear in schools in America. “Best friends form a close bond, and develop inside jokes – things that could essentially make others feel like outcasts”.
These teachers, talk to kids about having larger groups of friends and shuffle students around who are beginning to grow too close of a bond with another student. They force those kids to branch out and stop their bonding with specific kids.
Why? Much ado about nothing….
Studies have shown that having a “best friend” can actually help the mental health of someone as they get older! Having that close bond is something to grow from and nourish. Having that special person in your life is critical! So why would schools be doing this?
Raising Children With Unrealistic Beliefs
I believe it all stems from the same place a lot of our problems stem: the weakening (excuse me – “pussification”) of our youth. The notion that we should protect our kids from every bad little thing that could ever happen to them. We must raise our children in perfect little bubbles and not allow them to be hurt in any fashion! Essentially raising weak youth that is in no way prepared for life.
This style of raising a child not ONLY sets unrealistic expectations for the rest of their lives, but when something bad actually does happen (and it’s life… something bad WILL happen) they will not know how to cope with it! Look at today’s society of “millennials” and the staggering number of which (not all) simply can not accept things not going their way. They get offended if someone farts the wrong way. It’s not their fault.. they were raised to believe and expect an unrealistic reality.
What happened to actually preparing them for life as an adult?
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So now we begin..
Now we begin the downward slope that will lead to the entire nation’s youth growing in a bubble, setting unrealistic expectations, and assuming the world is butterflies and unicorns. Robbing our youth of close bonds with others, in the fear of offense, in the fear of excluding another. Ruining any hopes of those children ever hardening to life’s cruel games before they become adults. Since when was school more about protecting every aspect of a child’s life, than about nourishing and giving the child the knowledge and tools they will need in life?
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